My Sticking Point

well .. my first sticking point is AA .. weell i bought books and read
articles about getting overcoming it .. i set a plan for me .. so i
should approach girls from now on till getting passed of the fear .. so i
did asked 15 girls of the time .. i was feeling intimidating next day
asked for 5
and so in the 3rd day .. i felt power within myself
during social interaction .. but approaching still difficult .. i got
hypnosis .. no way . doesnot help .. it made me go crazy .. because i am
good looking , have good body and got hint from girls that they like me
.. but to go there .. i feel that i will screw it up and i wont be that
interesting to them .. well i stopped asking for time and approaching
anyone strange after those 3 days


2nd sticking point .. i am
good at attracting girls during my social circle . but for some reason .
i cant transit it to sexual one . i make kino, rapport , and cause
attraction feeling but to proceed sexually . i fear it will scare her .
and i think if i proceeddoing what i do she may do it . and give me more
hints and afteer she is giving me hints .. i still fear doing it ..
afraid of she may reject and cause me feeling a weak person not having a
control over me

thank you very very mucch

i will
appreciate your time reading and writing an advice for me

Hey mate - Seems like you're having similar problems to what i used to
have.
Before i started in the game, i'd be at parties, and i'd be
talking to girls and be building all this rapport and comfort and she'd
be laughing and stuff, but it never went anywhere after that. I friend
zoned myself with my escalation anxiety.

My approach to tackling
this sort of anxiety is a kinda roundabout way, but it really targets
the root of the problem, and will improve your life as a whole,
significantly.
What i'm talking about is CONFIDENCE.

The
reason you have this anxiety, is due to a lack of confidence. i know,
i've been there. and i know it's hard to admit (even to yourself), but
if you truly felt good about yourself, you wouldn't have these problems.
If you truly felt confident, you wouldn't care what she thinks about
you or about your advances.

So, what to do? get more confident.
Easier
said than done though.

I'm actually developing an
easy-to-implement system for people to improve their self-esteem and
feelings of self-worth, i.e. self-Confidence.
Basically, the essence
of what i recommend is to do two things:
- Eliminate dissatisfiers
from your life
- Increase your engagement in activities (etc.) which
truly make you feel good.

So for example, dissatisfiers hinder
your self-confidence. For me, at the moment, i have exams on. These are
really not doing wonders for my self-confidence, because i'm pretty
stressed out about them (naturally), but i know that after teh exams are
over, i will feel so fucking alpha, i will absolutely not give a shit
about what girls think about my approaches and attempts at closing (all
different kinds of closing)

To illustrate the second
recommendation, it may help you to finish this sentence off: "I feel
most like a man when..."
So for me it's like "I feel most like a man
when i am leading a group of people, when i close a really good looking
girl, when i'm in the middle of a circle on a dance-floor in clubs,
etc."

Things like that.

Identify dissatisfiers and
eliminate these (for example, if some people are giving you shit,
distance yourself from these people),
Increase your involvement in
activities that make you feel good about yourself, and make you respect
yourself. (For me it could also be going to the gym and getting into
shape, and eating healthily).

This way, logically, you decrease
the things in your life that are causing you trouble, and you increase
your self-confidence through positive activities from which you derive
copious amounts of pleasure and confidence from.

This will all
improve your confidence, and will aid you with your escalation anxiety,
AND your approach anxiety, and will truly lead you to live a happier,
more satisfied life.

Hope that helps mate,

Peacock.