Seduction, Pick-Up, Attraction

    Ten Ways to Improve Your Game With the Ladies



    عدد المساهمات : 88
    تاريخ التسجيل : 30/10/2009
    العمر : 31

    Ten Ways to Improve Your Game With the Ladies

    مُساهمة  HatemFarouk في الثلاثاء ديسمبر 01, 2009 12:14 pm

    Ten Ways to Improve Your Game With the Ladies

    by Alex Strandberg

    Building attraction in women is all about the right things while
    avoiding the wrong. Depending on what you do on a date she can either
    fall in love with you in moments or pick up a phone call from a friend
    bailing her out.
    Here is a list of the right things to do:
    1. Stop saying “just kidding” after telling a joke that is a little insulting
    You were doing great by insulting her and keeping it funny but you
    blew it the second “just kidding” came out of your mouth. Unless you
    were out for blood when you told the joke there is no need to let her
    know you weren’t being serious.
    When you follow your joke up with “just kidding” the only thing she
    hears is “I’m sorry, please, please, please don’t disapprove of me, you
    still like me right?”. You think nothing of it but she hears all of
    that when you speak those two detrimental little words-just kidding.
    It’s obvious that you were just joking and there is no need to say it
    unless you fear her getting upset.
    With two words you have told her and everyone else that you fear not
    being liked. Women don’t want men who are affected by the opinions of
    others. They want men who apologize to no one and put little value on
    what other people think.
    Ultimately you want to get to a place where you don’t care what
    other people think of you but that takes time. For now, just start by
    eliminating the phrase ‘just kidding’ and become comfortable with the
    idea that women might get upset by what you say.
    It’s the fear of disapproval that causes women to lose attraction
    for men. I get away with jokes and insults that most people would get
    scolded for because of how congruent I am. I stick to my guns and could
    care less if the girl gets upset or walks away. It’s my complete
    disregard for their approval that allows me to get away with anything
    while creating more and more attraction.
    2. Stop Asking if she is ok
    Asking if someone is ok when they are visibly upset or crying is
    fine but asking a girl if she is ok during a date is not. When you are
    out on a date with a girl and you ask her if she is ok, she feels your
    neediness. You are basically asking her if she is still attracted to
    you and making sure the date is going well. You say “are you ok?” but
    she hears “am I doing ok with you?”
    The very act of asking will cause the dynamic of the date to change.
    That question will actually cause her to become upset and lose
    attraction for her. You are worried that not everything is going as
    planned and your question becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.
    If she is not ok then she will make it very obvious. If the date
    isn’t going well don’t panic because it’s not that big of a deal. You
    check up on her because you are greatly attached to how the date will
    end. You worry about losing her and your plan is to correct any ‘wrong’
    behaviors you are doing in order to keep her in the game.
    If you are out there talking to several women a week then you won’t
    have to care whether or not this one goes well because another date is
    right around the corner.

    3. Leaning back when you talk to people
    Nothing spells neediness and fear like leaning in when talking to
    other people. Leaning in when you talk is similar to a little kid
    pulling on their parents shirt for attention. Seeking attention equals
    lack of attraction.
    Become a rock when you socialize. Hold your ground and never let
    your upper body lean in when she talks. If there is something that you
    can’t quite hear, ask her to repeat herself and let her get closer to
    This doesn’t mean for you to become snobbish and disinterested in
    the person you are talking to. Aloof might seem like a good idea but it
    is the wrong way to go about getting women attracted to you. You will
    start to attract the wrong type of women if you take this route.

    4. Breathing during a conversation
    Interacting with women can become nerve wrecking at times. Your mind
    is racing, heart pulsing and your stomach feels like how it would after
    a bachelor party. Breathing can help you curb some of this nervousness
    you feel.
    At first it will be very difficult to take long deep breathes when
    you are extremely nervous. In time you will start to anticipate that
    anxiety rising and you will breathe deeply to relax yourself.
    Think of a time when you felt extremely comfortable and relaxed when
    interacting with other people. Odds are good that you were funny, smart
    and did all of the right things without even trying. Everything just
    seemed natural, didn’t it? Learn to develop that calm state through
    breathing deeply around women and in social situations.
    5. Not saying much at all when you are talking to people
    I’m sure a lot of you talk far more than you should when interacting
    with women. Half of what you say isn’t really important or interesting
    but you say it anyways. It serves to fill the conversation because you
    fear that oh so dreaded awkward silence. Learn to become comfortable
    with awkward silence.
    Stop saying “yeah” when you can’t think of anything better to say.
    Stop simply waiting your turn to speak and actually listen to the person talk.
    Take a week or even a month and talk as half of much as you normally
    do. You will learn about a million different lessons but the most
    important lessons to take away are:
    1. You can CHOOSE when to talk and when not to talk. Choice is powerful and power is extremely attractive to women
    2. You can stop talking as much and everything will be OK. People
    who talk too much do so because they fear not being liked. They believe
    that the more they talk to more people will pay attention to them and
    bettering their chances of being liked.
    6. Learning to hold eye contact with people
    A large indicator to women that you have low self esteem and low
    confidence is your ability or inability to hold eye contact-it’s all in
    the eyes. Shy people have a very difficult time looking other people in
    the eyes and surprise, surprise they also do very horrible with women.
    When you talk to people look them in the eyes. At first you will go
    overboard with this and come off as creepy but that’s ok because there
    is no such thing as failure. Over time you will learn to gain balance
    between no eye contact and too much eye contact.
    Walk down the street and try to catch the eyes of any women you see.
    Hold that eye contact till THEY look away. If you are having
    difficulty with this exercise I suggest wearing sunglasses so you can
    see them but they can’t see your eyes.
    7. Taking your time when you speak
    There are people who naturally talk fast but a lot of this behavior
    is learned and thus can be unlearned. It’s a force of habit that needs
    to be replaced by talking very….very…slowly.
    When you think of a slow talker think of James Bond. The way he
    introduced himself to women was extremely attractive. He had women
    soaking their panties within seconds and all he did was tell them his
    name. This would never happen if he had introduced himself like a crack
    head in a hurry trying to get a fix.
    Take a moment to pause and breathe before saying anything. There is no need to rush when what you have to say is important.
    8. Not letting people interrupt you when you talk
    Dominance is attractive. Leading is attractive. Letting other people
    run the conversation is not. If it’s a fun conversation and people
    interrupt you, that can be forgiven but not when you have something
    worth while.
    If you are trying to tell a story or make a point don’t let ANYONE,
    including her, interrupt you. Talking over them by raising your voice
    will quell any of those annoying interrupters. If they continue to do
    this you can stop and tell them “shhh”-it will get the point across.
    9. Taking your hands out of your pockets and eliminating your social anxiety release

    There are many ways to deal with uncomfortable situations and one of
    the biggest is sticking your hands in your pockets. Don’t do that.
    Instead of trying to release your social anxiety by closing off your
    body learn to relax and open up. Here are a couple of things that
    people do when they are nervous that they shouldn’t:
    *Hands in pockets
    *Looking away
    *Fixing their shirt
    *Playing with their cell phones
    Women will feel that your nervousness and become uncomfortable .
    Ultimately the goal is not to be uncomfortable or nervous at all but
    for now you can work on dealing with your anxiety.
    Most people use the above to run away from their anxiety like they
    have been trained to do. Embrace the awkward moments because there will
    be many. Learn to face your anxiety head on instead of trying to avoid
    10. Stop Fake Laughter
    How many times a day do you laugh at things that aren’t really truly
    funny? I’m guessing a lot because I used to do the same thing. Faking
    laughter happens for a couple of reasons:
    1. We are nervous
    2. We want the approval of others
    3. Giving approval to others
    You are worried that the other person might feel bad about making a
    bad joke so you laugh out of courtesy. You fear that if you don’t laugh
    they won’t like you as much as they did before. Women can tell whether
    or not you are being genuine and laughing at bad jokes is not. They
    feel it and some of the attraction will be lost along the way.
    If you a big time offender of this act then I would suggest not
    laughing at any jokes for a short while to balance things out. Maybe
    give them a smile so they won’t think you are a souless sociopath who
    can’t comprehend basic humor.
    Watch this video from to get an idea of what
    I’m talking about. When the girl meets the other guys and one of them
    asks her “so, where do you work?”and she responds “I work at a PR firm,
    it’s a living” the men crack up laughing. It wasn’t a funny joke but
    they laughed to gain her approval.

      الوقت/التاريخ الآن هو الثلاثاء ديسمبر 18, 2018 11:00 pm